Detox Update-Social Media Sabbatical, Day 30-ish
Social Media Sabbatical ~ it’s been 30 days since my last…. indulgence.:-) [if you want to read Part 1 of my Social Media Sabbatical, click here]
Hi, my name is Sandy and I’m a Facebooking Twitt-aholic
The first 2 weeks were the hardest. It’s really humorous to watch your brain as it thinks in 140 characters and status postings. I find myself wanting to take pictures of a beautiful dessert or a fabulous cocktail and share it, but where do I share it now? How? With who? (or is it whom…. this would have been a great question for my Tweeps, dammit)
When I’m clinking that glass with my date (er, husband), instead of performing my usual ritual of Cocktail-Toast-Interuptus, which involves a complicated maneuver of arranging the glasses & candles on the table “just so” and taking several pictures to make sure I’ve got just the right angle and lighting. Now, I just take a breath and say:
“I Declare This a Perfect Moment” (my all-time favorite toast)
I’ve been doing lots of reading and not nearly enough writing. I decided to use this down-time to do a 15 day Juice Reboot (inspired by the documentary Fat, Sick & Nearly Dead – which I HIGHLY recommend – it’s so inspiring!) The movie, not the juice reboot, that kinda sucks, but feels like you’re doing something extremely healthy for your body…. I digress.
The biggest thing I’ve noticed is a generally calmer state of being. I notice it when I’m driving in the car, picking up or dropping off my girls somewhere (which I spend A LOT of time doing), I notice the fall leaves and how beautiful the colors are. I used to have this constant nagging feeling that I “should” be doing something or that I might be missing something. That’s the thing about social media, it never sleeps. You could literally be tweeting and face-booking 24 hours a day, seven days a week. And I used to think if I wasn’t connected and saying something interesting, or quoting something inspiring, or sharing something funny or cool, then I would be forgotten.
I guess I thought if I wasn’t tweeting and face-booking I might disappear.
But I didn’t disappear! What I’ve come to realize is, not only didn’t I disappear, I’m actually more HERE than I’ve ever been.
That nagging feeling that I’m supposed to BE somewhere else DOING something else has dissipated.
And in it’s place is a more joyful daily experience.
My life has not been without it’s challenges the last 4 weeks, I have two teenage girls living in my house, so the hormones are out-of-control (my poor husband). However, I’m convinced that this Social Media Sabbatical has helped me navigate those challenging moments with a little more loving presence and understanding. Maybe it’s the flood of healthy micro-nutrients that I have been pouring into my body every day, but I’ve actually felt quite giddy lately. Like something really good is about to happen. My life feels more relaxed. I feel more relaxed, less anxious about life in general. I’ve had more time to turn my focus inward and listen to the dreams that have been whispering to me.
There are things I’ve missed. Like sharing in my friends & family’s lives, getting tagged in photos from my high school buddies, posting pictures of our first snow. In fact, here’s a picture I snapped and texted to my immediate family (living in sunny South Florida) of our back deck Wednesday morning. It was amazing!
And I really got to appreciate it. Instead of rushing to get online and check Twitter, Facebook, etc. I’ve been leisurely enjoying breakfast and then driving my 14 year old to the school bus every morning, I’m more available when my husband comes upstairs from his office to chat about how his day is going. I’ve been spending quality time with myself, letting my Inner Wisdom bubble up and whisper exciting possibilities to me. I’ve been asking what would make me happy and then listening for an answer.
I’m not sure if it’s connected in any way (says the girl who believes everything is connected), but the day I started the draft for this blog post, like 2 hours after I wrote the words “I feel like something really good is about to happen”, I got a call about a project that I’ve been waiting on for months and it’s moving ahead. Which is very exciting. And I feel energized and ready to give it 100% and I’m pretty sure this Social Media Sabbatical has given me the space and the clarity to focus on what’s important so that I’m ready for these opportunities when they come along.
Is Your Smartphone Stealing Your Life?
I read this article yesterday in The Huffington Post: Is Your Smartphone Stealing Your Life?
“At any of my children’s performances, half the parents are participating in the experience through a digital device, capturing the images of their children dancing while missing their children dancing. They are recording the experience so as to have it; to possess it as one would an object. And indeed they end up possessing just that: an object, empty of the felt sense of their children actually dancing.
Behind their devices, these parents are having an experience, but the experience is of technology and their relationship with it. It is no longer an experience with their child, themselves or the dance.
When we record life through technology, we end up with one thing: a lot of technology. We have 16 gigabytes of memory, but no real memories of our life.
It is ironic — in an effort to try and keep it, we perform the ultimate sacrifice: We remove ourselves from it. We watch life like a prisoner that must be prohibited from escaping.”
Interesting… isn’t it? I don’t know if I’m ready to abandon my picture/video taking smartphone and all of it’s amazing abilities just yet, but WOW, do those words speak to me. I feel the truth somewhere deep inside of me.
What I know for sure, so far, as I sit here on Day 30-something of this so-called sabbatical:
It is very good for the soul, now and then, to be quiet and go within. And even though my life might look very similar on the outside, my insides tell me something different. There is a calm, steadiness to my life. Any bit of frantic energy that was present has dissipated. Part “look at me!” and part trying to capture every beautiful moment but not really being in the moment – it’s gone, for now. Will it return when my Social Media Sabbatical is over? I don’t know. But I do know that learning to really BE in the present moment, takes practice. So I’m using this sabbatical as my practice. One day at a time. One precious moment at a time.
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If you’re interested in taking your own Social Media Sabbatical, here’s where I started… Social Media Sabbatical
Here’s Part 3: Social Media Sabbatical Update Month 3